Idealization and Devaluation
Idealization and Devaluation
This is a pattern where someone is placed on a pedestal as perfect, then torn down as the worst when disappointment sets in.
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Idealization and devaluation is a pattern where your view of others swings between two extreme opposites.
At first, you see someone as completely perfect — but even a small disappointment can lead to viewing them in an extremely negative light. This pattern is connected to a defense mechanism called splitting.
Noticing this pattern is the first step. Try reminding yourself: 'This person is neither perfect nor the worst — they're an ordinary person with both strengths and flaws.' If this pattern feels familiar in your relationships, Mindy is here to explore it with you.
💡 Real-Life Example
Calling a new friend 'the most amazing person ever,' then suddenly feeling like they are 'absolutely the worst' after a minor letdown.
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