Gioi thieu
Ban da bao gio cam thay bat luc khi nguoi than yeu roi vao tram cam? Nhan ra rang "Co len!" hay "Nghi tich cuc di!" co the gay them ton thuong chinh la buoc dau tien. Duoi day la huong dan cu the ve nhung dieu nen va khong nen lam khi ho tro nguoi bi tram cam.
Noi dung chinh
Nhung dieu KHONG nen lam
"Co len nao", "Do minh nghi thoi" -- coi tram cam la van de y chi. "Toi cung kho lam" -- so sanh noi dau. "Co gi dau ma" -- xem nhe cam xuc. Ep ho ra ngoai, tan cong bang loi khuyen, hay tranh xa vi so "lay".
Nhung dieu NEN lam
Don gian la o ben canh. Cho ho biet ban o day: "Minh biet ban dang rat kho khan. Minh o day." Lang nghe khong phan xet -- dong cam hon la giai phap. Ho tro thiet thuc nhu cung an com, giup viec vat. Nhe nhang goi y tim chuyen gia: "Hay la thu noi chuyen voi chuyen gia tu van xem?"
Cham soc chinh minh
Nguoi cham soc cung co the kiet suc. Hay thua nhan cam xuc va gioi han cua ban than, va tim kiem ho tro khi can. Ganh nang "phai cuu" nguoi khac se gay hai cho ca hai.
Bang chung nghien cuu
Nhieu nghien cuu khang dinh rang ho tro xa hoi la yeu to bao ve quan trong trong qua trinh phuc hoi tram cam. Tuy nhien, "ho tro sai cach" (tap trung vao loi khuyen, xem nhe cam xuc) co the lam tram cam nang hon (Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 2017). Lang nghe dong cam la hinh thuc ho tro hieu qua nhat.
Cach thuc hanh
Ap dung hang ngay
Moi tuan gui mot tin nhan ngan: "Hom nay ban the nao?" Ru cung an com. Neu bi tu choi, dung bo cuoc -- hay tiep tuc moi vi nguoi tram cam thuong co xu huong rut lui.
Luu y
Loi nhan tu Tam An
O ben canh nguoi than yeu khi ho dang kho khan, chi rieng dieu do da la mot mon qua to lon roi. Ban khong can loi noi hoan hao -- "Minh luon o ben ban" la du. Ban, nguoi dang quan tam cham soc, cung la mot nguoi quy gia. Tam An cung se cham soc ban nua nhe.