Self-Sabotage

What is Self-Sabotage?

Self-sabotage is a contradictory pattern where you simultaneously work toward what you want and act in ways that block it. It can look like suddenly starting to clean the night before an exam, pulling away just as a good relationship is progressing, or procrastinating right before an important deadline.

Why Do We Sabotage Ourselves?

At the root of self-sabotage there is usually a fear of failure, a fear of success, or low self-worth. An unconscious belief like 'I don't deserve something this good' can slam on the brakes just before success. It can also feel more comfortable to stay in a familiar unhappiness than to step into an unfamiliar happiness.

How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

Because self-sabotage happens unconsciously, it can be hard to notice. Pay attention to repeating patterns. If things tend to fall apart at the same point every time, it may be an inner pattern at work rather than outside circumstances.

A Warm Word from Mindy

If you've spotted self-sabotage in yourself, you've already taken the first step toward change. Rather than blaming yourself, try understanding it this way: 'A part of me was trying to protect me, and this is how it showed up.' Mindy is cheering you on so that you can wholeheartedly embrace your own success.