Tantrums

What Are Tantrums?

Tantrums are intense behavioral outbursts in which a person loses control of emotions such as frustration, anger, or dissatisfaction. They can take many forms, including crying, screaming, stomping feet, throwing objects, or lying on the floor.

Why Do Tantrums Happen?

In young children, tantrums are a natural part of development, as the ability to regulate emotions has not yet fully matured. Common triggers include tiredness, hunger, overstimulation, or the frustration of not getting what they want. In adults, chronic stress, difficulty regulating emotions, and unresolved feelings from the past can lead to tantrum-like outbursts.

How Should You Respond to a Child's Tantrum?

When a child is having a tantrum, it is important to stay calm and remain present. Ensure their safety, then wait for the emotions to settle. Naming the feeling — such as saying "You seem really angry" or "You're feeling upset" — helps the child understand their own emotions. Trying to discipline or reason with a child during an outburst is generally ineffective.

How Are Adult Tantrums Handled?

Repeated outbursts in adults can be a sign of difficulty with emotional regulation. Stress management, anger control techniques, and mindfulness practice can all be helpful. If outbursts are frequent and interfering with daily life, exploring the underlying causes through professional counseling is recommended.

A word from Mindy: The moment emotions explode can feel overwhelming. But hidden inside that outburst is a real feeling that wants to be heard. Let's work together to find that feeling and learn safe ways to express it.